Tips for Life…

This was re-posted in Ann Landers, Sunday, May 5, but is as relevant today as when it was initially posted:

1. Give people more than they expect, and do so cheerfully.

2. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you’d like.

3. Don’t say “I love you” unless you really mean it.

4. When you say “I’m sorry,” look the person in the eye.

5. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

6. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt, but it’s the only way to live life completely.

7. In disagreements, fight fair. No name calling.

8. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

9. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”

10. Call your mom.

11. Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.

12. Don’t let a little squabble damage a good friendship.

13. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

14. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

15. Marry someone you love to talk to. As you get older, good conversation will be one of the principal elements of an enduring relationship.

16. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

17. Read more books, and watch less TV.

18. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past.

19. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.

20. Mind your own business.

21. Trust in God, but lock your car.

I think these are great tips and try to live my life accordingly…how about you?


Vicki Reed

Tattooed…and Employed

Do you remember when…having a tattoo was taboo?  I was driving home down I-465 yesterday and saw this on the back of a really nice car!

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There are many myths about people who have tattoos…they can’t donate blood or organs (visit for accurate information!), that they are barred from burial in Jewish cemeteries (Torah law prohibits a Jew from being tattooed, says Rabbi Gedalia Dov Schwartz, the presiding judge of the Orthodox Beth Din of America, however, “there is no reason why a Jew with a tattoo may not be buried in a Jewish cemetery.”), only “trashy people” have tats…well let me tell you, I’m educated, own my own business, own my home, drive a nice car, go to church regularly, come from a “good” family and I HAVE A TATTOO!  And so do a lot of others!

What about you?  I was 42 when I got mine, I wanted a specific cartoon character from my college days…anyone remember “Bloom County“?  Opus, Bill the Cat are among the cast of crazies that inhabit the mind of Berkeley Breathed and reading Bloom County in the Ball State Daily News was a staple of my college days!


It took me a long time to work up the nerve, find the right image and have the money to go through with it, decide where it should go…a friend has dolphins swimming around her navel, looked great until she got pregnant…then those little dolphins became whales and became the size of a dinner plate!  Mine is small, on the right side of my back, just above my waist…I did it for me, to remind me of a more carefree me and just to make me smile!  What do you think?



Vicki Reed

Dinner and a play…for $24!

Last weekend I had the pleasure of attending the annual University of Indianapolis Dinner Theater production of “I Hate Hamlet” and you still have the chance to go!

At a cost of only $24 per person (over 60, additional discounts available!), February 22-23, 2013, Dinner at 6:45 p.m., Performance at 8:00 p.m. in the Schwitzer Student Center Dining Hall.  Good Food and Great Entertainment:

I Hate Hamlet

A young and successful television actor relocates to New York, where he rents a marvelous, gothic apartment. With his television career in limbo, the actor is offered the opportunity to play Hamlet onstage, but there is one problem: he hates Hamlet.

We have been attending these dinner and performances for years and have always enjoyed them, reality is that this is less expensive than dinner and a movie!  It is a student production, from the direction to sets, dinner and servers…take a chance and enjoy a great evening!


Vicki Reed

Wish # 7

My seventh wish is that we turn off the television more often and lessen the constant bombardment of advertising, noise and a 24/7 news cycle.  It distracts us from what is important…put on quiet music and read a book, talk to your family, play with your children.

I have found that many people in my age group (I’m 48) are TV addicts and I admit to being one!  If I’m home, the TV is on…as I work, write, read, whatever, it is always on.  I think part of it is because we are the generation that grew up watching ABC, CBS and NBC because they were the only channels available and where I lived we only got NBC and CBS!  Cable came to be as we be grew up and I think somewhere inside us are those kids who had very little choice of television programs and are still fascinated by the overwhelming amounts of programming (good = Criminal Minds; bad = Here Comes Honey Boo Boo) available.

Turning off the TV will also eliminate watching TV news which likely leaves you frustrated and angry about things you can’t control…if you are looking for the weather, look outside and you’ll have a good idea of what it’s going to be like!   If something extreme and newsworthy happens (like nuclear war) I’m sure we will hear about it anyway.  There was a time in our not so distant past that we didn’t know what was happening during a war unless we saw the news reel at the local theatre or had a radio…this was a time when our patriotism was much higher than it is today when we learn about the news as it happens.

I’m going to try to turn off the TV more…we’ll see how it goes!  Can you do it?

No-TV-  Vicki Reed

Wish # 3

My third wish is that everyone remember to be human, not just during the holiday season, but all year long.

We are people…we need food, rest, friendship and love.  We can’t work all the time and we can’t rest all the time, life must be balanced.  As we go through our daily lives, we should treat each other with respect, understanding that we all bear our own struggles, usually silently.

Slow down, look around you, acknowledge the next person you see with a nod and a smile.  Compliment a stranger, hold the door for person coming in the door you are going out…all it takes is a little effort on your part and it can make a difference in how someone feels, even how they see themselves.

The Golden Rule says:  “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matt. 7:12)…it is my wish that we all remember this and put it into practice for next year.

What are your wishes?  Call, text, email or comment here!

Vicki Reed